Cara Mendez – Intuitive Success Coach

Cara Mendez is an Intuitive Success Coach for leaders, visionaries and change-makers who desire to have it all – wealth, family, freedom – on their terms. She guides her clients to their TRUTH so they can step into their soul’s purpose, own their power and receive their divine pleasure. She facilitates the Unfiltered Soul Mastermind, is the creator of the digital course, Back to Center and founded the online community Unfiltered Soul. She is also a certified Pranic Healer and is currently training as a NLP, T.I.M.E. Technique, EFT and Hypnosis Practitioner and Shaman.

Over the past decade, Cara experienced first-hand giving and doing from a place of depletion that ultimately resulted in adrenal fatigue. On her healing journey, she discovered a new found sense of power through daily self-care practices that reconnected her with her True self. And since, it is her passion to share the power of subconscious reprogramming through generational healing that she underwent so that more women and mothers can experience living in alignment with their potent purpose, pleasure, power and prosperity on their terms.

Recently, Cara had the honor to be part of the St. Louis Symbowl Speaker Series and the St Louis Listen to Your Mother cast where she shared her story of motherhood depletion and how it lead her to a self-care lifestyle.

She currently lives in the rural, picturesque town of Pacific, MO with her amazing husband, 5 gorgeous kiddos and 2 rescue dogs where they homeschool and run multiple businesses.

Soul Healing Revolution: https://www.facebook.com/groups/soulhealingrevolution

Heaven on Earth Virtual Workshop: http://www.caramendez.com/heavenonearth

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulhealingrevolution/

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Jamie: I am super excited to have Cara on the show. Cara, welcome.

Cara: Thanks for having me again.

Jamie: I am so excited. You’re here. It’s been a minute since you’ve been on the show. So why don’t you tell our listeners a bit about yourself? 

Cara: Yeah, so I’m Cara Mendez. I am an intuitive success coach,but I really prefer quantum soul healing guide, but I prefer to go by these days that just really more describes the depth of what I do. I am a homeschooling mom of five and I also co own and operate a local business with my husband. live in a little world town, um, outside of st. Louis, Missouri. Mmm. Yeah. And we’re going to talk today a little bit about creating your heaven on earth, which I’m super excited about.

Jamie: Yeah. So what does that mean? Tell me what that means. 

Cara: Oh, I’m so glad you asked so heaven on earth. It’s really where you’re just like liberated from pain and suffering and you’re living in a state of just ease and flow and you’re fully expressed and life just feels like super juicy. You’re grounded, even when shit feels hard or it’s challenging, like you just know where your center is and you can always come right back. And you’re just like not taking things personally. Right. And that like liberation is literally like fucking ecstasy and bliss. And that is heaven on earth.

Jamie: Yeah. Oh my goodness. So yeah, let’s uh, in, under, you know, however long and the podcast is 20 minutes. Can you explain how to do all that? Cause that sounds amazing. 

Cara: Well, I can explain how you do it and then I can invite you to very intensive workshop that I’m doing, where I will guide you through the process to reprogram yourself subconsciously to access this. And, um, well, Jamie and I have been working together one on one for like what I think we just decided that five and a half months, six months. I don’t even know anymore. I, I mean, I’ve known you so long, but we’ve been working together.

Jamie: Yeah. End of January. I think it was January, late January. Yeah. Doing all the unstuck minus things. 

Cara: Yeah. Yeah. So, so you know that the process is, you know, it’s, it’s, it’s a layered process. It’s okay. It is, it’s not rainbows and butterflies. 

Jamie: I mean, it’s work, right. It’s definitely, it’s, it’s, it’s emotional, it’s heavy. But on the flip side, you also, when you go deep and it gets heavy on the flip side, it ends up being light and airy and easy. Um, but I will say like to your credit, and this is not a sales pitch for Cara whatsoever. I have suffered from, and I still get it from time to time, but I’ve done. Like I suffered from anxiety for a really, really long time. And I’ve gone to therapy for like a year and a half. And I have done a lot of mindset things to try and get on stock from like, I’m really good at like, let me get to this level in business. Like I got to six figures really fast in my business and stayed there for awhile. I’ve been to multi six figures relatively soon after that, and then stayed there for awhile. And now it’s like, okay, how can I get on stock to go to that next level? So that was part of why I hired Cara. Like how can I get to a seven figure, big assist, number one, number two, how can I better manage my anxiety? Because like, what I was doing was just not working and it it’s definitely, it’s like, I almost think of it like a dip, right? So for me, it’s very emotional to handle that. But on the flip side you come out and you’re like, Holy crap, you feel so much better. And I will say, there are things that I’ve uncovered that I never expected that I would have to uncover or whatever. And it just kind of, you know, you just kind of go with the process. I can see it. You can’t see Cara, but she’s smirking. She’s like, yes, I expect this. But I think, I think I personally have made more progress in five months with you, um, than I have probably in all the time I spent in therapy and it nothing against RP. Like, it definitely helped me with my PTSD after the birth of my second child, but it has done nothing for my, it did nothing for my anxiety, like the work that we’ve been doing. 

Cara: Yeah. So I’m like, you’re saying this and my brain is just like firing. So, so like, I want to S like, this is okay, so this is like, perfect. I’m like, Ooh, this is perfect. Okay. So here’s heaven on earth, right? Like you want to reach six or seven figures. Right. Because what does that represent for you? Right. That represents freedom. Right. But what’s the fucking point. If you don’t actually feel free. Right. It’s true. Right. Which is, which is why we’re working on all of that deep underbelly stuff while you’re like, I didn’t know we were going to go there on this. I didn’t know. This was even part of that. Yeah. This is the shadow work, right? Like this is the, we have to do the dismantling first. Mmm. It’s kind of like what’s going on in the collective right now, to be honest. 

Like, it’s exactly like, like you’ve already been doing the work and now the collective is doing the work. Yeah. Right. So, um, and we’re always so afraid of the dismantling cause it’s so fucking uncomfortable. Yeah. But yeah. But what happens when you go there and you face the demon, you face the pain, you face the hurt, you face the suffering and then you reprogram it, you release it. Then what happens? You immediately feel lighter. Yeah. Well, what is freedom? Freedom is fucking lightness. It’s liberation. It’s like you no longer feel that heavy weighed down this. You’re like, okay. It’s like a big, huge, deep, deep exhale. You can breathe again. Yeah. You know, and it’s still, that is really, um, what I am like also experiencing in my own life. And that’s what we’re working for together. And that’s why I’ve crafted this workshop having on earth, because I want to be able to like, you know, Hmm. 

Offer this to the, you know, to, to the masses essentially, because it is that liberal. I can’t even describe it. Like you can’t even describe the feeling of true liberation until you’ve experienced it. And I recently here I’ll share this story. This will be helpful so recently. And I shared some of this with you already, Jamie. And so this is a deeply personal story, but I do think it will resonate with you. Mmm. So, you know, we’ve been going through this whole COVID-19 okay. Pandemic. And I have five kids, as I said, and we homeschool and have businesses. Well, we lost our nanny in the process through all of this because she no longer felt safe to come to work. Um, she was a high risk 62 smoker, and also works with like other elderly clients. And I thought, Oh, you know, it’s fine. I can handle this for no a couple of weeks or a month or whatever, but I really wasn’t anticipating at going on and on and on for like three months. 

So I can’t actually, it was May 5th. I remember cause I wrote it in my journal. Um, and I will share this. I will share the prayer here in a minute, but I was in the deepest pain and suffering that I can recall in here years and years and years, literally sitting in my minivan in front of my happy place, which is the Lake in our subdivision, which is super beautiful, super calming, super peaceful. And I literally just thought to myself, I should just drive my van into that Lake. I should just put myself out of my misery. And then of course, right after that, my mind is like, Oh, that would be way too much of a torture it’s stuff. Like don’t do that. Yeah. Like what if you changed your mind? And then you just ruined the family video call and then you would feel really guilty because like the mind is like totally fucked, right? 

These are the things that were going through my head. And so I’m sitting in my van, I’m hysterical, I’m so upset. I’m feeling so overwhelmed. And just like, I had just gotten into a fight with my husband. I had got into a fight with me, one of my kids and Mmm. I was just like, you know, kind of just like contemplating my fate, honestly. And I sat there and I wrote in my journal and I prayed to God and I said, I surrender this pain and suffering. Like, I, I give this to you, God, please guide me to this, to the path I am here to walk, please set me free. Please make me truly, truly free. Like I am open to your guidance now. Mmm. I receive, I receive your guidance. And I receive this, you know, I received this freedom, like set me free. 

Okay. And there was a few other things I can’t remember verbatim, but I do have a written down somewhere. And it was this really like, you know, a come to Jesus moment. Right. And within two weeks of, and how you forgotten, I forgotten I’ve written that prayer until just a couple of weeks ago actually. And I was like, Oh shit, that actually happened. So two weeks within two weeks. Mmm, of course I was divinely led. There was a series of actions, series of happenings, spare you the details of those. And then next thing I know, I really Mmm. Experience like, uh, a healing around my own sexuality, which liberated me in a way that I never knew was possible. Like I was healing like sexual shame. I did like an inner child hypnosis and that’s what got me there. And Mmm, I was just like, and I was willing to be vulnerable. 

And you know, this kind of all kind of came about with my husband. And it was really beautiful and it led to this like deep level intimacy and connection. And just this vulnerability that we have never experienced are relationship before. And just this awareness around myself and who I was and who I am got to be moving forward. And it was the most freeing experience of my life to date. And that’s also kind of what inspired, you know, this heaven on earth concept and, and this workshop is, cause this liberation is unlike anything other, I mean, what do we all desire? We all desire to be liberated from our pain and suffering. We all desire to be able to be fully expressed and seen and heard, right. Because most of us were not. And we still like that fear is so strong within our subconscious minds, that, that it’s not safe to do that. 

You know? And as for women, we were literally persecuted because of our power, you know, we’ve literally been shamed for how many generations for being sexual beings. Right. And so this was just like, it felt like also too, it was this like huge breaking of the cycle for my own lineage so that I no longer have to carry that onto my children. 

Jamie: Yeah. Which I feel like is super powerful. And you haven’t really talked about that at all. And I think that that’s something that’s, um, very interesting, right. Because I think we unknowingly carry a lot of baggage stuff, head trash, whatever you want to call it. Um, that isn’t ours. So how I’d love for you to speak to that. Cause I just think that it’s something, especially women. I feel like we, we do that a lot and we carry a lot of stuff that’s ours. And I know one thing for me. Mmm. And I shared this with you. When we first started working together, I went to this, um, flower, essence therapy workshop and something resonated with me so much about that, about how kids carry so much, that isn’t theirs. And I was like, what am I having my kids carry? That’s not theirs. And I need to do something about it because I do not want my kids to carry all the weight and all the baggage that my parents forced me to carry on knowingly when I was a kid. And sounds crazy. And you might be listening, thinking like, what the heck does this have to do with business? But having that awareness has massively changed who I am even able to show up as, as a person.

Cara:  Yes. So it actually has everything to do with business because when we’re talking about, so being fully expressed and being liberated around who the fuck you are and knowing your truth is marketing, it translates. It’s getting, it’s being visible. It’s being able to feel safe, to be seen and be heard. Right. And so like when we’re not being able to, when we’re not able to market our businesses fully, um, it’s because there’s some kind of visibility with, right. And like when you’re in your, in your a hundred percent spot on, we are all carrying the wounds of our ancestors and of our past generations, we all are. And that is really where heaven on earth comes in is because when we can liberate ourselves from those things, put those bags down, heal those wounds and say, this was nevermind, Carrie. Like that’s a whole new level of empowerment. That is a whole new level of consciousness, right? Like that is a whole new level of freedom of liberation of expression. And that is what we are all here to do. That’s what, all of our souls like King here too, be actualized in their truth. 

Yeah. So when you’re marketing, that’s what marketing is. Authenticity, transparency, uh, vulnerability, all of that is connected to this work. 

Jamie:Yeah. Agreed. Well, I think why so many people get stuck 

Cara: yes. A hundred percent. And like you also touched on something that’s super important, circling it back to business again is you there’s, there’s no coincidence that you were attracted to me. You were like, I want to go to this next level, but I don’t want to do it like I’ve been doing right. So you have also undergone a huge dismantling in your business, which has been scary because you’re like, Oh, the way I’ve been doing it. Well, it actually was never working. It was working monetarily, but it was never working for the wholeness of who you are. Yeah. Never working for your soul. 

Jamie: Yeah. Well, and we talked about too, right before we hit the button on this, we were talking about kind of the level of I’m okay with this convert. Like, would it be gentle in the way in which I portray this, um, the realness and the authenticity that actually happens a lot in the online space, right. Because I had also, and I was very clear with you and I’ve been very clear with every coach I’ve hired reasonably. I can’t keep, I cannot keep investing and not getting any results. And I can’t keep investing and not, I don’t want to have that same experience again, like I’ve had with the people I’ve hired in the past, right? Like I don’t want to see one person on the front end and a different person on the backend. You know, I don’t want to see an end in fairness. I’ve also, I’ve been very fortunate. I’ve been be able to be behind the scenes of some massive businesses because of the work that I do. But I’ve also hired people who I’ve also witnessed the same thing. 

They don’t practice what they preach or they appear to be one person here and they’re completely different person there. And I think that this, you know, what you’re doing is, is, is to, and to your credit is such a cool thing because there’s a lot of people out there like you and me who want the authentic, the real, the raw, the vulnerable. And I know for me, like I want to make a really big impact in the world, but it’s like, there’s so many other people out there out of integrity, trying to do the same thing. And so many people get pulled into the vortex of those people because they seem larger than life and they seem, you know, whatever words you want to use. So I love the work that you’re doing here because I think it is so fucking necessary in the online worlds day, simply because there’s so much bullshit going on. And I really feel like, and you can speak to this better than I can between all the COVID-19 stuff. And a lot of like the black lives matter movement that’s going on right now. You’re really seeing the stripping back of who people are.

Cara: yeah. Yeah. There has definitely been and engagement of the ego, for sure. And at the same time there’s been just as many, um, if not more, at least in my perspective and in my opinion, um, of awakening, right? Like we are seeing the truth in so many ways at a different level than we’ve ever seen. Yeah. Yeah. But that’s why, yeah, go ahead. Well, just as a collective it’s, we’re being elevated and some people will not choose to receive that and that’s okay. And like, that’s where I feel like there’s this like discord happening right. Where you’re like, it just feels yak. Like I was literally just wrote a post about that taste feels kind of gross. Um, and, but there is a, there is like that and everybody’s Ascension happens at a different time too. And, um, I described it today. It’s like, you know how, when you were, when you became like an adult or like grown enough where you really were able to see your parents for being like the flawed humans that they are, and like having their own insecurities and issues like everyone else. And it was like the hugest fucking disappointment. Cause you were like, damn, I trusted you my whole life. Like I listened to you, like you were my guide and you’re fucked up. 

It’s like, it’s like, that’s happening. Right. So like the bandaid is being like ripped off and we’re seeing like, you know, that gnarly underbelly. Mmm. I do think it’s going to require some patients, but I also feel like this restructuring is happening because of rebuild is only inevitable next, right. For the country, for the world, for the online industry and for our individual selves. Um, I know that for sure, because I have done this work for a very long time and that’s just how it works. So we do have to be a little patient. We do have to have compassion. Sometimes it’s hard to do that. Like I haven’t been feeling the most compassionate to be honest, um, last couple of days and you know what, like I get to feel that way. And when it’s time for me to be on the other side of that, then my compassion will return and all will be well in that area. 

And that’s fine too, because again, we’re humans, we’re living in a three D world. Like this is just the process. And, um, and one of the big things for me also, I feel like in liberation is like, we get to be all parts of ourselves. Like we get to be fully, fully, whole, aye. I really started, um, inviting all the parts of me, get to have a seat at the fucking table. Like I’m not going to deny any part of me. And if that means that I appeared to, you know, have these like significant, like the significant dichotomy of about me, well, hell yeah, I do what I can be. It’s kind of like, you know, when you see those, um, those little memes or whatever, I’m a little bit of love and light and a little go fuck yourself. Totally. Like that’s totally me. Right? Like I’m like, yeah. And, um, and we’re human and we don’t have to be perfect ever. 

You know, we get to be the flawed humans and we get to love ourselves anyway. Um, and it’s just a journey, right? It’s a journey. The key is to not take these things personal, whether it’s our own flaws or whether it’s other people’s actions. And that is such a, such a huge piece. It’s easier said than done though. Well, that’s why you have to do the work. Right. Like we only take it personal because it’s triggered something where there is already a wound within us. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So, so ultimately, you know, it’s releasing, releasing, like releasing the attachments, releasing the stories around what these, you know, what our results like our goals or unmet expectations releasing what that means about us releasing what’s happening in the world. 

Um, and not taking it personally, you know, really just like detaching, so detachment. Um, and, and then like asking, asking spirit, like, like who would you have, maybe what would you have me do? How would you have me bring this to forum and being open to receiving that guidance for that clarity. Right. So receiving that clarity from spirit and then just trusting and not trusting, like so fully trusting that you will be guided to the exact right path because we always are. It’s only when we get into resistance, then we decide that it’s like, it’s not working. It’s not working. Tell me now I need to know this. And we’re trying to like control and manipulate. Okay. We activate our pain and suffering guess

Jamie: I don’t know what you’re talking about. Never, ever done that. Not me. Yeah. 

Cara: But yeah. Yeah. I know. I was like, as I was talking, I was like, Oh, this is landing for her. I can tell, never heard from that before in my life. 

Jamie: Yeah. Yeah. But I think the point though, that’s why this stuff is so needed. Right. And I don’t think I’ve always really tried to pride myself. Right. As a, I hate to use the word marketing coach. I like to say strategist, but as a marketing strategist, like I’ve always really tried to pride myself on taking a holistic approach. Right. And understanding that there’s strategy implementation. Mmm. Integration. There’s like a lot of pieces that come together. And one thing that I am realizing, and I’m like, fuck, I gotta add this to my business in some way, shape or form is this mindset piece. And I talk a lot about mindset. 

 Right. But not how you talk about it from the perspective of like healing the subconscious piece. Right. Because I think, you know, some people can read like, feel the fear and do it anyway. Right. And they’ll be able to take what they can take from that. And that will help him overcome. Right. But that’s not the case with every person, you know? And I think regardless of where people are at the, you know, especially in the online world, there, there has to be this new paradigm shift where part of this, this being in this space is one truly being authentic, like practicing what you preach and saying, like being the same person on the front face and it’s on the back back end of things. Like you do an excellent job at that. Right. Like, and you always have, and you always have. Right. And it’s like, I am definitely far more comfortable than I’ve been in the past. And I’m like a pretty private person. 

You know, there is a lot that goes into being able to be visible and being able to run a company and be a mother or father or parent. And a lot of that has to do with the wholeness of yourself.

Cara: Yeah. Yeah. And those parts of ourselves are often in conflict. Right. Because the entrepreneur part of us feels like I’m going to be successful. Then I’m going to neglect my kids. And the parent part of us is like, if I’m fully present and available for my kids, I’m not going to have energy or time for my business and I’m not going to be able to be successful. Right. And so there’s this light guilt on both. And so anyways, we’ve done some, um, we’ve done a lot of that. We’ve done some integration around the parts. Yeah. Yeah. And you know, but that shit will hold you back. 

Jamie: Yeah. Well, and I think that’s so much, and I don’t know how much you talk about that in that workshop. But I just think for our listeners that it’s like, it’s so important to consider. Like if you’re at like, in some places, in some instances, I feel like some people we get to this certain level in business, we just want to stay there cause we’re happy. And we don’t, we don’t really want to get uncomfortable. Like we’re happy with where we we are at. But I know for me personally, that if I had addressed some of this stuff that was going on in my life and in my business sooner, I would have a way different today in a way different reality than I do right now, because I know a lot of that stuff, it has held me back from making decisions. It’s held me back because I’ve had these expectations around what it was supposed to be like or what I believed it was or how I, how I had to work and show up in the world. 

And I think to Cara’s credit is like a rockstar at really like taking this stuff apart and helping people move forward with that, with that ease. And like she says, like heaven on earth. And I think that that’s just such a cool thing that you’re doing well, 

Cara: thank you. I’m so excited. And like, I’m really excited too, because like the next step then like once you released and you surrendered and you’ve Mmm. And you’ve like asked for that guidance and you’ve received the clarity, well, then you get to create your future vision. Then you get to, you know, put it all together for the sake of manifestation and you’re, and I mean really, and it’s not even just manifestation. It’s like we’re putting it out into the quantum field and then it really becomes magic because then the things that you’re creating are not only aligned, but you’re raising your vibrational frequency and you are able to collapse time on when you were able to receive these things. 

And the whole process just becomes more effortless and more ease, you know, more easy. Um, because you’re working with the energy versus trying to manipulate and control with the ego. Yeah. If that makes sense, it makes perfect. That’s what we’re doing in the workshop. 

Jamie: So I ask every single guest on the show, I probably asked you this last time and hopefully you’ll have a different tip for us. So do you have any Ninja tips you’d like to share with our listeners? 

Cara: Yeah. You know, I wood, I would invite anyone. Who’s listening to this to get your journal out and, or you can do this in meditation or you can do it in the bath or you can do it on walk. Um, whatever you, wherever you feel guided. Mmm. And just ask God, who would you have me be? What would you have me do? How would you have the, bring this to form, please guide me, show me the path, make it clear for me. I am open. I receive your guidance now and what comes. It might come right then and there. And it might not come for a few days. I come through someone else. It might come through a book. Um, you just have to be open and open to receiving.

Jamie: Oh, I love that. So how can we get in touch with you? 

Cara: Yeah. So you can find me on Facebook. You can join my Facebook group. It’s called soul healing revolution. Um, and you can find me on Instagram under next level intuitive. Wow. 

Jamie: Okay. We’ll be sure to put those links in the show notes. Cara, thank you so much for coming on the show. It’s been great to have you back on again, and we’ll probably have to have you on again sometime soon, cause he has so much knowledge. So thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Cara:  My pleasure. So honored and can’t wait to do it again. 

Jamie: Awesome. Well, thank you guys for tuning in and we’ll talk to you all soon.